You Can't Possibly Understand My Pain

You Can't Possibly Understand My Pain

I heard once a long time ago that it is better to be blind from birth than to go blind during your life. They said it is because a person who is blind from birth doesn't know what he is missing. Someone who could see has a more difficult time because of the loss of something so wonderful as sight and the long adjustment period afterwards. I think it could be the same for people who started their lives poor and have lived their whole lives that way and for people who had plenty and then became poor. Or for people who have lived a tragic life from birth and the ones who lived an idyllic life and came to some point in their adulthood where one tragedy after another shattered their existence.

We all know pain and I'm not talking about a toothache or a headache. I'm talking about heartbreak; mental pain. The writhing agony of being totally out of control of your situation. Wanting something you can't have so badly that the whole problem consumes you. Being so tired and wishing you could find shelter in sleep but finding that every time you try, all that you can do is roll and tumble while terrible thoughts deluge your brain and keep you suspended in a vat of sorrow and despair. Everyone who has lost someone they love or had a dream shattered knows this pain.

Some people handle the pain better than others. Those that handle it best learn over time that they can move on. The pain may never truly be gone, but it takes a back seat and rides along quietly. Others can never seem to let it go. It rides in the front seat poking and prodding, constantly trying to grab the wheel, and too often succeeding, forcing them off the road, back into the forest of despair. Revisiting the cause over and over, the suffering never ends.

Don't ever tell someone that they can't possibly understand your pain. I'll bet that they can. And they are probably still hurting right now.

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